I think in general we all have strong opinions about things we dont fully understand until we are MUCH older.
Most of us, when we are young adults, think we know everything. You want to know why that is? Its because we haven’t had enough life experiences to accurately form opinions yet. Now don’t get your undies in a bunch!
There is something to be said about having preconceived notions without the benefits of experience. It is experiences that can make us pause or even doubt our abilities.
But, never forget who helped you become who you are today; good and not so good.
I often remind myself that we are standing on the dust and bones of the people that came before us, our ancestors.
After all, we certainly would not be here if it wasn’t for them to begin with…
I am speaking from my own personal experience and hindsight.
I’ve often said “Be like Nike; Just Do It!”
(No this is NOT an endorsement)
What is your first thought when you hear this statement? I am willing to bet it starts with “But…”and then you list all the reasons why you can’t.
I get that there are financial constraints, so please don’t use that excuse.
What I am getting at is “How do you know unless you try?” Believe me, I know something about this; I haven’t lived this long without figuring out that I am the only person standing in my own way.
If you read my last post you’ll know that procrastination is not good.
Take that step, one little step! Nothing easy is worth doing, but I’ll guarantee that once you “try” you’ll realize it’s never as hard as you thought it would be. Sometimes doing stuff outside your comfort zone is Scary as Hell! But holy moly can it be an amazing experience; like driving my own motorcycle.
What’s the worst can happen? You find out it doesn’t work out? So what! Now you have a better idea of what will work, so you back up and try again.
Recently for me I’ve discovered that in crochet, I really can do most of the things I thought were way to complicated.
Did I do it all on my own? Nope, sure didn’t. I used video tutorials, asked experts and I leaned heavily on what I already knew and BAM I FREAKING DID IT!
Everyone procrastinates, I feel compelled to point out that you really need to stop doing that.
There is no one worse than a Mom or Wife, we procrastinate about taking care of ourselves because we are taking care of everyone else in our lives. I am not telling you to not do that, I am saying you need to take care of yourself too. Make damn sure that everyone around you sees you doing it also. Make sure your people understand that taking care of yourself is as important as being Momma or Wife.
I say this because of two reasons. One, you are teaching your children that it’s ok to be selfish once in awhile or even on a regular basis. I know selfish is a strong word but go with me on this. Two, you are showing everyone that you care about yourself, this is so important!
It has been my personal experience that because I was taught, Moms were supposed to be the martyr you don’t show that you have respect for yourself. Now I know that is a very strong statement also, but that’s the best way I can express what I mean.