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Hope or Promise – Dec 6

I was reading up on Advent and what I was reminded of is the 4 weeks have a separate theme.

This week is Hope or Promise.

What is Hope?

Here is a definition:

“Hope is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.”

I like to try to be optimistic about everything. Like giving people the benefit of doubt instead of believing everything you hear or sometimes see. There’s ALWAYS more to a story…

To me being an optimist means, there’s options. Who doesn’t like options?

I think having hope is a promise for positivity.

Be Kind – Dec 5

I know it should go without saying, but, Be Nice! Be Sweet! Be Kind to others!

On a whim I looked on Google Trends for “Advent Kindness”, want to know what it said?

In a period of 12 months, Kindness is dead! Literally there’s more action on an EKG of someone on life support than on this bar graph.

I went back and just searched for the word “kindness”, ok this bar graph looks like someone ON life support. This graph shows a major peak in November. But did a complete nose dive after November 10th, but it’s on the upswing as of today.

Maybe people dont need to ask Google for advice or ways to show kindness or maybe people just dont care about each other as much.

What do you think?

I think some people are so self absorbed they don’t think about anyone else but themselves; but are some of the first to complain that no one thought about them.

It’s a 2-way street folks, YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE!

Be Humble – Dec 4

What does it mean to be humble?

For me it means in part, to Never Forget where you come from.

What I mean is, your past has brought you where you are today and made you who you are; so honor that.

It’s been my experience that when I’ve forgotten my trials and tribulations; the Universe had a way of knocking me off my high horse.

What I am getting at with this post is, remember that everyone is on their own journey. Don’t be so quick to judge, point fingers and make fun of someone.

Remember:

When you point your finger at someone you have 3 pointing back at you…

Have you listened to Tim McGraws song “Humble and Kind“? Or just read the lyrics…

Tim McGraw “Humble & Kind”

Pay It Forward – Dec 3

I think most of us has seen the movie or may have heard the term before, but have you actually done it?

Like pay for the person behind you in the drive thru or picked up someone’s check at a restaurant?

Me personally, I like to grab a Law Enforcement Officer’s order or check. I was getting gas and as I was running in to get my own coffee an Officer was right in front of me; I just swiped my card before he could.

How about just using manners? Like saying “Please” “Thank You” or “You’re Welcome”?

What about making someone’s birthday a little special by acknowledging it or giving them a card?

It never hurts to pay attention to people around you; maybe someone is struggling to load their groceries and deal with a toddler or just physically having issues.

I know, this can get tricky at this time of year with all the tricksters out there; but couldn’t you just watch out for someone who isn’t paying attention?

This post turned out with more questions than answers…

What are some of your ideas on how to “pay it forward or random acts of kindness”?

Thankful – Dec 2

I was exploring the Advent calendar and this thought popped into my head.

“Just Be Thankful”

Hmm, now that is worth thinking about.

Not just “what are you Thankful for?”

But, are “other people” Thankful for you?

It is my theory that if I am actively being my best person then the answer to that second question should be “yes”.

Remember in my last post, I said the Universe has a way of reminding me that I am just as flawed?

Sometimes being Thankful for someone isn’t meant to be all neatly packaged with a sweet bow and pretty wrapping paper. Like when someone holds the door for you AND says Thank You while looking you in the eye.

Sometimes being Thankful is god awful messy. Like when a person you are close to dies…

You think of all the good, bad and the ugly experiences with that person and yet you are Thankful for having had them in your life. You are Thankful for all the lessons they taught you.

What or Who are you Thankful for?

Life is Short; Make it Count❣

Do Unto Others – Dec 1

Let’s explore the concept of the Advent Calendar.

An Advent calendar was created as a basic daily devotional. Just a way to be extra mindful of yourself and others.

I’d like to point out that a good majority of people have spent this weekend thinking of others as we shopped the frantic “deals”, to be had at every retail shop from here to Amazon.

What does “Do Unto Others” mean to you?

I personally try to do this every day, not just at this time of year. Although, the holiday season makes me want to kick it up a notch.

See, thinking of others helps me cope with difficult people. I ask myself all kinds of questions like: who/what made this person so grumpy? Was it something I did?

Sometimes when we are hurting from physical or emotional pain we throw off serious negativity. Me personally, I can not live there for too long because I really don’t like myself and as you can imagine other people don’t like to be around you when you’re like that either.

So I try to make an effort to brighten that person’s day, if only for a few minutes; with the hope that later in the day when they think of their day there might be a small bright spot in it.

Now don’t get me wrong friends, sometimes people are just miserable for the sake of it, just because they can.

These kinds of people, in my experience, are meant for me; as a reminder or a personal lesson. What I mean is, sometimes the universe likes to remind me that I am just as flawed as the next person.

Are you doing anything special for this giving season? I’d Love to hear about it.

Life is short; Make it count❣

From the Lady Cave: Sharing a Fabulous Book List

I am sharing this book list, partly for selfish reasons (I need to add a few to my TBR 😁) and to hopefully inspire someone else to read some of these.

I am incredibly Thankful for alot of things, people and situations that got me to this point in my life.

Can’t think of a better day to share this than on Thanksgiving Day, which happens to also be my Birthday ❣

Enjoy every minute my friends, make it count!

Here is a link to a post from The Orang-utan Librarian, she has the best lists: https://wp.me/p6boOO-4Ht

So, we don’t have Thanksgiving here in the UK, but that doesn’t mean I can’t share some BOOKISH GRATITUDE! I tried to narrow this down to books that have a special place in my heart or that came into my life at exactly the right time (although of course, most great books feel like that, simply by virtue of being great 😉). Annnd I’m gonna be honest, I ended up with a very different post to the one I started with, because I took out anything too dark. I think I just prefer this to be a *happy place*. Without further ado, here are some of the books I’m most grateful for:

Harry Potter– starting way back when I was 7- this was the first big book I ever read and I will always be thankful that it made me the reader I am today. Yes, I am a stereotypical millennial reader and proud of it 😉

The Hobbit– aside from being mythologically rich and having wonderful characters, this book gave me my love of fantasy- how could I not include it?

Peter Pan– this is another childhood favourite and I’d feel remiss not to include it, especially given how often it inspired me to practice flying as a child 😉 (granted, I never actually achieved my goal, but not for want of trying 😉)

Rebecca– this book always reminds me of my mum, cos it’s her favourite. And I’m always glad that she foisted her favourites on me!

The Idiot– I originally felt like I had no special reason for including this one, but whenever I think about books that have shaped me, this springs to mind. I read this at about thirteen and it just clicked. Not only did it start a lifelong love of Dostoevsky, it taught me so many valuable lessons that I carry with me to this day.

Emma– okay, quick confession, I’d already read Pride and Prejudice when I read this and I think I was too young to get the irony. I’m really happy I read this book, because it unlocked Austen’s humour for me. I ended up rereading Pride and Prejudice shortly after and loved it the second time round! (which was lucky, cos I was set it for school). Then, of course, I read all the others and have never looked back!

Dr Faustus– it just lit up my brain at exactly the right moment- yes I am enough of a dork to include academic inspiration on this list.

Man’s Search for Meaning– part autobiography, part exploration of logotherapy, Frankl’s book may seem a bit heavy on the surface. However, it’s actually the most uplifting book I’ve ever read and my brother was a hundred percent right about getting me to read it!

Mort– I *needed* this book in my life- I just didn’t know it. Fortunately, a couple of my friends did know that I needed to read this and pushed me into it… and I couldn’t be happier that they did! Plus, one of my friends knew exactly which Pratchett to get me started on. So I know you’re not reading this, but thank you.

Vicious– fun fact, I was giving blood for the first time when I read this- and it was the *perfect* distraction! It was simply too brilliant! You simply can’t pay attention to anything else going on when you’ve got Schwab for company! (also, guys, give blood- it’s a great excuse to sit and read and you get free biscuits 😉 )

Grey Sister– ah this is just a pleasure to put on the list. I was in a horrible slump a couple of summers ago and trying to deal with big life changes- this gave me a welcome distraction for a few hours- which I was immensely grateful for, I can tell you!

Carry On– I can’t stop being thankful for this magical book- because it has the power to pull me out of any slump and give me all the *warm fuzzies*!

That was fun- I feel like I should steal more traditions from across the Pond 😉 Hope all my American friends have a Happy Thanksgiving! (and if it’s not to late, the same to all you lovely Canadians!) And, I’m curious, what books are you most grateful for? Let me know in the comments!

From the Lady Cave: Disney +

I like to stream Netflix and sometimes Hulu from my phone. Verizon just gave their customers Disney + free for a year.

So I downloaded the app and started using it. I was excited about watching or listening to some of my favorites from waayy back in the day.

I first started watching “Bed knobs and Broomsticks”, oh my I haven’t seen this in a VERY VERY long time.

I did get a bit frustrated trying to find the movie I was in the middle of watching because I had to exit out abruptly then restart. I had an expectation that whatever I was watching would basically be near the top of the screen (like Netflix) but it wasn’t. There isn’t a “continue watching”, “Watch list” or a “recently added” category.

I just found my “watch list” today when I arbitrarily clicked the Mickey mouse button at the bottom of the screen. I really was stunned that it would be there.

I am still enjoying this app and have gone on to watch “The Sound of Music” the original version. ❤

So tell me, have you started using the app? What has your experience been like?